Give me some sunshine... Give me some rain.....Give me another chance i wanna grow up once again!!!!

Hello everyone,

Its Friday again, a new movie will release today and so is my blog. So here I am. After writing so much on the serious topics, I was looking for something fresh and light. Then, one of my good friend and colleague suggested me why not to write on some movie. There have been lot of talks about movies on Friday. Though its not a review of recent release. But i want talk about an old movie and I feel this is one of the best movies of all the time. It’s about “3 idiots.
The movie started with controversy when Aamir Khan denied the fact that the movie is inspired from a famous Indian fictional author Chetan Bhagat's "5 point someone". When, I was new in the reading world, Chetan Bhagat used to be my favorite writer and hence I was eagerly waiting for the movie to come. When this movie released I was pursuing MBA and I was living in Indore, the movie fever was everywhere, finally I decided too buy ticket in Black. Anyways, I grabbed my seat and the music begins “Kaha se aaya tha wo, yaar humara tha wo, kaha gaya usey dhundo.” It’s a fact even you all will agree that when a book is converted into a movie, we start comparing it and here I was connecting the moments that, which character was missing in the book and the movie was progressing. Honestly speaking there were some instances that are same as in book, but the movie had its different identity. Well you all must be thinking that after three years why I am writing about the movie, the reasons are many but things which we I think should be highlighted :
1.       The first and for most, "do what you like to". There are many live and proved examples in front of us. The one who follows his heart and do what he likes to proves himself Champion. Let me quote the same example from the movie, if Sachin Tendulkar was asked to be a singer and Lata Mangeskar was asked to be a cricketer, had they been as successful as they are now.

2.       The second one is for parents, don’t force your children to be Engineer or Doctor, to pursue education is important but don’t decide their career. Let them be what they want to be.

3.       The third learning is for muggers, there are some in every batch. Mugging can help you only during the exams but not in real life. Ultimately, “tumhara balatkaar ho jaayegi.”

4.       It takes some time to be what you want to be. There is no rocket science; neither guarantee that any particular course or college can provide you a handsome job. It’s all about the skills; if you have good ones success will be your girlfriend. Kamyaab hone ke liye nahi, kaabil banne ke liye padho, success jhak maar ke peeche aayegi.

5.        It is said parents are the only ones in this entire world who would be most happy if you succeed and are always ready to help you till the time you finally settle down in life. Be frank with them and always tell them about your ambitions, passion and hobbies.

6.       Do not bother about what people say, “Kuch to log kahenge, logo ka kaam hai kehna.” Till the time you  you have are happy, everything is right and perfect.


Well, the reason I am praising 3 idiots is the movie gives us a clear message of the current situation of our country. I remember my days, after schooling, I was not clear what to do. Being a science student, I was advising to pursue Engineering. I enrolled myself for Engineering; initial one and a half year was horrible, nothing was going fine. It is said when you are at your worst you find who are your real friends. I realized how people are; anyways I completed my Engineering but was jobless. I won’t say that is most because recession, it was but I was not ready to fight then I decided to go for MBA. Unlike Engineering my days at my MBA’s were fun, but there was something missing, I was doing a course and studying something which usually students learn in 11th standard, the journal entries in Accounts and as like every engineer I was again struggling.
After MBA, when I appeared for interviews, the question that every interviewer asked me was "You are a software engineer why do you want to come in sales?" But sir now I am an MBA too. (my mind always replies like this.) Thank god, I handled these questions diplomatically. The similar question in the movie Aamir asks to Kareena- Jab MBA hi karna tha to Engineering kyu kia? Or abb America me bank me naukri karr rha hai?

This is my story but I know this is one of the very common story in our country. We are the country who produces maximum Engineers in a year. Our education system according to a survey is the third toughest and successful. These days everyone wants a 5 figure salaried job and to settle abroad. No-one wants to settle in India. A client from Germany was sharing me that the biggest edge India has over other countries is the population of youth or young blood. But I connect it the saying “Oldies and running country and new ones are running Facebook.”

I accept the fact that in our country youth lack proper guidance. There is just a rat race. We do what our friends do or our relatives advise us to do. Indian parents either want their child to be an Engineer or a Cricketer. Money is not everything; many rich brads are not able to sleep properly. Work satisfaction is the biggest thing and it will earn huge for you.

Lastly, just want to say do the things that your heart tells you and yes kiss karne me naak beech me nahi aati.

Marriage is a wonderful institution but who wants to live in an institution.

Again it was same long and tiring day and I was back to home hoping that Bhabhi would have cooked paneer as promised. When I stepped in, the flat was filled with an awesome aroma of paneer and hot jalebi’s. And when I was enjoying this awesome aroma, suddenly my phone start ringing “Maa Meri Maa, Pyari Maa Mumma.” I picked the phone, it was Mom, and she said I emailed some photographs of girls, kindly select one. Before I could react, she hung up the phone.

Marriage- I feel the biggest decision of life with the dilemma of choosing a right person to be your life-partner. Are you seriously ready to share your life with someone who you may or may not know? Although love marriages are getting successful and now a days youth want to choose their partner by their wish. But the real question is whether you want to get married or not. Relationships these days have become more complex in the era of social networking. People are enjoying their life virtually in virtual world. Though at some point of time in life you have to connect your virtual world to real world.

Guys enjoy not being in committed relationships, roaming, enjoying their lives the way they want and I really don’t see people who want to get married (including me). It is said “Shaadi ka laddu aisa hai, jo khaaye wo pachtaaye, aur jo na khaaye wo bahut jyada pachtaye.” With inflation, the marriage thing, (at least for boys) is always bottom in priority list.

If you are bachelor then you have right to:
1.       You are not liable to anybody.
2.       You can come home anytime.
3.       You can keep your apartment the way it is. (You’ll find all the things as it is as you’ve left) I know it is not true.
4.       You can call your friends, stay with them, party, booze and do anything you like to.
5.       You can spend all your salary on yourself.
6.       You can wear and buy any color .(This is another important point as what we like is not allowed our partner do not like)

Although, there are some points which will pull you to the institute of marriage. As like:
1.       Since, you have someone in your life you are liable to answer so you manage your things, you follow a routine which makes you organised.
2.        You don't have to eat out daily. You know when you would reach home someone must have cooked your favorite dish.
3.       Your apartment will be finely managed and you can find a place to sit and everything at its place (Best of all you don't have to think when you last used or where you left your).
4.       You will have couple parties and family gathering to enjoy instead of house full of smoke and bottles rolling on floor.
5.       Although, the chances are low that you’ll be allowed to wear clothes of your own choice but believe me guys we always purchase the same type of clothes whereas girls gets better for us.
6.       For how many more years you’ll walk alone. After some time you need someone to walk by your side(Finally, at some point of time you need someone to be there for you. It’s a hard and proved truth).
8.       This point maybe controversial and some of you may not agree but if you have a life earning partner then she divide sorrows and multiply happiness.

And, so it is up to you to decide, whether you wanna have this laddoo or not!!!
Waise the aroma of Paneer and jalbi and my taste buds are pushing me to the institute of obligation. I was also curious to have a glance of pictures mom sent me. I love LADDOOS and I feel I will surely taste it sooner or later

Her Day- For Her

Women: A Mother, Sister, Daughter, Wife, Girlfriend, Best-friend. They teach men to express and accept, live and love, share and care.

Women’s Day fever is on and every news channel and newspaper is full of talks about women’s achievements, their success story and what not.

But does this talk really make any sense? Do we really respect them? Is celebrating Women’s Day really worth? Will distributing free passes for movies or discounts for women make any difference? I know there is a lot of talk after the Delhi-Rape case but are there any corrective measures? Instead the rape cases have been increased after this case. Is creating Nirbhaya fund really worth?

Why it is necessary for a woman to wait for food till her husband eats? Why is it necessary for her to fast for her husband’s long life? Why on earth we have thoughts like this still in our society? Why I see mothers advising their girls to be like this? Why it is necessary for a woman to be mute when her husband makes some decisions? I am not at all criticizing our society but some norms are utterly stupid. I still remember the time when girls were admitted in Government Schools and the boys were sent to English medium schools.

It was really sad when our neighbouring country China commented and made fun of us after Nirbhaya’s case.They were the one saying at least we do not have culture like this. We Indians who feel proud on our culture and praise it to be the oldest culture in the world but we have nothing to say because of our deeds.There was a case of October 2012 of Orissa. There is a tribe in Orissa where every year a fair is organized. In those fairs a man (even if he is married) can marry any girl of any age; all he needs to do is apply vermilion at the parting of girl’s hair. There is a 60 year man choose a girl who is just 12, when girl denies she is forced to go with the same man.

Also, people leave newly born baby “girls” on roads. This is the era where we talk about the modernization and development of women; we still have cases like this?

Giving some special rights in the constitution or reserving seats in buses, trains won’t change anything. I find some men saying your revealing clothes motivates me to rape, if this is the case then your stupid face motivates me to punch your face. Should I?  How can we expect to be in world’s community if we are not able to give a secure atmosphere to the residents of the country? Today why a common man fears to go out with his wife/girlfriend late in night? Can’t we build a safe and secure society where girls can walk freely?

Then there are people who give some nuisance statements to leverage their image. People advising girls to keep pepper spray in their purses, to learn martial-arts. All of these protective measures are fine, but why girls have to live with fear.

I really don’t know from where the fix-ups should be started but yes we can start it from home. We should teach boys to respect woman. Why do we show respect only during Navratri? We touch their feet, feed them and worship them and later disgrace them.

While giving birth to a child the pain a mother feels is equal to the pain felt when 52 bones breaks down. On the other hand we disrespect them, kill them. It is horrifying see movies like “Matraubhumi” where a girl gets married to six men. Even mythological stories tells if woman is disrespected it brings destruction. Lord Ravana of Ramayana and Lord Duroyodhana of Mahabharata are some of the perfect examples.

God created woman, he brought her onto this earth and assigned various roles. She plays as a kid, adopts her mom's way of living. Continuing her personal life journey being as a daughter, sister and, moves on to be a wife, then mother then, sister-in-law, aunt, mother-in-law sacrificing many things in her life, joins her new family but I find many men criticizing, comparing, insulting, disrespecting her....... instead should encourage, support women to come up.

Let’s come together and make our society, our country a happy and most importantly safe place to live. I promise to be supportive and protective.

DO YOU???

Truth is I don’t know where I am going with my life, I am just taking it day by day!!!

Truth is I don’t know where I am going with my life, I am just taking it day by day!!!- (A very meaningful line which defines the ideal youth life)

Last Saturday when I was planning to relax, I got a phone call from one of my old friend residing in the same city. He was going to doctor and asked me to join. Since, the doctor he was consulting was a beautiful lady so I was happy to join him. I was wondering that what happened to this beast; the reason being he was 6 feet’s tall and muscular.  We reached the doctor’s clinic by 10 and there were almost 12 people waiting for their turn. At 2 pm we got a chance to meet the doctor. As doctor got to know that we work in a software company, she wrote some 3-4 tests. We went to the laboratory for tests and got all the tests done. The lab-assistant told us that the reports would be ready after two days. The next week was hectic and we didn’t have any chance to take the reports. Again, it was Saturday and the beauty of the doctor forced me to waste my weekend with him. Anyways, since we visited after 1 week, doctor’s assistant asked us to pay the consultation fees again. After seeing the reports, the (beautiful) doctor told that my friend is suffering from the problem of “…………………….”

Wait for a minute, what she said????? Depression…. I was not able to believe on my ears, she suggested some exercises and meditations and told him to avoid all the conditions that make him tensed.

 I am not here to discuss about the doctors or their practices, I want to discuss about the problem of depression in young blood. Gone are the days when oldies used to face this problem. This is one of the most common problems among the youth these days. Some common reasons for this are:

1.       No girlfriend/boyfriend.

2.       Unemployment

3.       Low salary/ increments

4.       Performance

5.       Pushy Bosses

The world is going competitive and we should be ready for the competition but the problem is we are not able to handle the pressure. Office issues and worries contribute 70% of our worries. I always wonder if God would have made a nail where we can hang all our worries when at exit of the Office door.

So, how to avoid these problems, there are some small things that we usually avoid or simply miss because of our busy schedule and I can bet if we try those simple things we’ll enjoy our life like hell. Some of those things are:

     Walking bare foot on sand/ seashore. I used to think that how walking on a seashore bare foot be one of the most wonderful feelings but trust me it really works. I really cannot define that awesome feeling in words. It is simply amazing.

    Start waking up early. I know it’s really tough, working late hours, then there are various commitments but believe me, “Wake up early in morning and go for a small walk”. Feel the beauty of nature. Just rewind your life for a moment and think when it was that you have seen sun rising? I know it’s been long but it really works. Try it.

   1.    Start exercise. You will feel that you have done something great for yourself.

2.       Try cooking for instance; I myself being a horrible cook can advice you this is because you will love it.      The time invested here is well worth the money.

3.       Join twitter and by twitter I mean twitter. Facebook these days had become so crowded. Your Aunt, Uncle, Maternal Uncle, colleagues and Bosses, everyone is there on facebook you cannot outburst on facebook but twitter will help you doing that, you can write as much and as what you like, you don’t need to censor.

4.       Learn some new language; it will help you groom both personally and professionally.

5.       Playing old video games, especially Mario. Here you may contradict on my opinion but still it’s a huge stress reliever. It engages you to the core. True Story.

6.       Meditation- although I don’t believe in the meditation theory but research says it really does. I simply cannot sit and concentrate, but people say it improves your focus, sharps your mind and help you to concentrate.

7.       Help someone you don’t know. The pleasure you’ll feel cannot match with any feeling. There are some simple feelings which cannot be bounded in words and it is among one of those.

8.      This is another interesting thing and this is the one I am trying to convert into reality. It’s having a pet dog.  The way animals express their love for human is incomparable.

9.  Start reading some good and motivational books. “The Secrets” by Rhonda Byrne and “The Monk Who Sold his Ferrari” by Robin Sharma are the ones you must read before dying.

10. Start writing diary, the way you want to plan your day and the way your day went. It should also include the way your life is moving. It will help you remember some those simple moments you want to remember for your life.

 I am not a doctor, life-coach or psychologist to advise you, but these are small things which if tried can make the difference.