When I told you, that I loved him....

She- But, I love him bhaiya.

Me: Are you in your senses? How can you? I mean how can you? Aren't you aware about the consequences?

She: I know that is why I have told you first.

Me: Ohhh really. And what do you think. "Sardar khush hoga, Shabaashi dega". You are really lucky that I am not in town today otherwise you should have received a tight slap.

She: Bhaiya….

Me: Tell me. I am Listening.

She: So?

Me: So what?

She: Won’t you be supporting your little princess?

Me: Don’t try to be smart madam. Who is he?

She: Bhaiya…

Me: I am asking something. Who is he? Tell me.

She: He is from my college. You have met him.

Me: I won’t let him live anymore. You broke my trust.

Wufff… I woke up. That was a bad dream. It seems as I am watching Hindi movies too much. Yes I was. These night shifts had not left me with any other option. I was the regular viewer of Zee Cinema Classic and trust me on that it really sucks.

Anyways, this dream forced me to again think about the relationships. What if my younger sister comes to me and confronts the same with me. I really don’t know how my reaction should be? Being BIG BROTHER forces us to be over protective sometimes. But my question is why it happens when our sister tells us about her love we start behaving as Orthodox Indians. What about our Girl Friends, they are too somebody’s sisters.

 As I have discussed in my previous blogs that how tough it is to confront your parents about your love. Similarly, it is way too tough for them to accept this truth. All I am trying to do here is to keep myself at their place and think. So, what are the consequences if my boy marries a girl of other caste? Some are:

•         My uncle will say, see I told you. You should not have sent him out for higher studies.
•         My friends will say, “Arey bhaisahab sun ke bada dukh hua”.
•         I really should not have sent him out for higher studies.
•         And what about the promise that I made to Shambhu phoophaji.
•         Nobody will be ready to marry my daughter. 

So.

So what about love? It is said no matter how efficient you are in planning at, but life always has its own plans. Agree.

One of my colleagues beautifully describes the after effects when you dropped this nuclear bomb in your family:

Stage 1: They shall shout at you. They will not talk properly. One of the famous quotes “hum kya kahein, aap to bahut bade ho gaye hain, aap apne decisions khud le sakte hain. Tumse humko aisi umeed nahi thi.

Stage 2: They stop talking to you and when you call them the responses shall be in “hmm” and hmmmmm. “Jo dikhaye so karo”. We don’t care.

Stage 3: And the most interesting among all. They shall ask “Are you stiff on your decision ki kuch ho sakta hai abhi bhi.” Also, they will request you to meet some boy/girl of their choice.

Stage 4: This is my personal favorite. Okay. Let’s meet and discuss.

Although, it also includes the qualities and status your caste have over the other and the comparison among their choice and yours. Some say the pair doesn’t look good. Some say I was ready to give 5 lakhs of rupees in cash.

I love one of the Rajesh Khanna’s song

“Kuch to log kahenge,

Logo kaa kaam hai kehna… Choodo BEKAAR ki baton ko…

This is my point. It is not that I am in the favour of Love Marriages and I am against Arrange Marriages. All I am against is that orthodox thinking. My point is simple. Meet your children’s choice, try to understand them. I always believe parents are the ones in this whole world who remains by your side, in any situation of the life. They are the ones who are happier and prouder if you succeed and they are the ones who motivate you when you lose. Convince your parents, they will agree sooner or later because in end all they want is you to be happy. 

That Ahhh Feeling!!!!!!!!!

Jahan Tere Pairon Ke Kawal Gira Karte Thay…

Hanse To Do Gaalon Mein Bhanvar Pada Karte Thay…

Chhod Aaye hai hum Wo Galiyaan…

Chhod Aaye hai hum Wo Galiyaan…

The song woke me up.Ever wonder every song has some story associated with it and sometimes the beautiful words of songs defines your current situation. Its 11:00 PM. I was in bus leaving for my “karma –bhoomi, Pune.” The song made a hullabaloo in my mind. It left with a different feeling. Something I’ll call as “That Ahhh Feeling.”

It is something especially for vagabond people like us, who usually study at one place but their ambitions, jobs and careers take them to a different big and settled place. I still remember the time when my younger brother came to drop me, when for the first time I was leaving home for higher studies. Although, Indore is just some 200 kms and a maximum 4 hour drive from my home but I still remember the look in his eyes, since I was late in catching the bus so all he could manage to do was just wave his hand to say Good-Bye Bro. I still remember his eyes telling me that whatsoever the case is I am gonna miss you so much bro.

That gaze left me with “that Ahhh feeling” in my heart. That 4 hour journey I was feeling more like I am a bride who is leaving her home to settle her life in a new city with her husband. The only thing that was different that day was I was not crying since somehow that egoistic manly creature in me was not letting me cry and also, there was a bunch of beautiful ladies hanging around at the back of my seat. So, I have to control myself. Anyways my respect to women that day had increased a little more.

It is almost seven months I’ve been to home and to be honest I was not missing going home. There were some two-three opportunities but I discarded them. But, my room-mate of Indore was getting married and so with heavy heart I decided to book my ticket and this time my luck didn’t favored me with TATKAL ticket. So, finally I have to board the bus.

I still remember my Post Graduation days where I used to be the one of the most “happy” and “vella- launda” of my college. The reason I am writing “one of the” is because yes there were some others too. And, now this is the time where I am bonded in this so called “Professionalism” where I am not allowed to chew food with open mouth, where I cannot wear my tore and funky denims and slippers, where I cannot laugh out loud aka lolz and cannot speak loud since others feel disturbed or in other words they woke up from their sleep.

It is really hurting when I see with so much of emotional burden and lots of dreams, people from different cities come to their “karma-bhoomi” and some political leaders say you cannot work here since you don’t belong to this state. Yes, I don’t but I do belong to the country which contains this state. This is my irony that I have to come to this place because my place does not have sufficient jobs and the company has given me joining in this state.

Ever wonder when you are at your place or when you reach your hometown even some years after “nothing changes”. You have got that good feeling in your heart. Everything is slow and steady in comparison to your work place. You sometimes feel to resign and come back to this place again but at that very moment the other you in you shakes you and makes you realizes your dreams, your promotions that is just a month away, the 2BHK flat you are about to purchase and your friends who are also out. The handsome salary you are receiving and the easy availability of everything cools you down.

Although, many of you might not agree with me but some of you will. The reason I don’t like to go to my place is BECAUSE it took atleast a week for me to settle down back again to the fast and furious life of here since everything there is very slow, cool and steady with low income possibilities and vice versa is the case here, everything is fast and furious here with higher earning possibilities. Also, it is really tough to convince parents and ask them to come with us. All we got to here is yes we can come with you for a week but not more than that. We are born here, the life is smooth here and we like to live here till the end.

Sometimes, by looking at school kids playing in ground no matter it is raining or tremendous heat make me think why I grew up?

Such things make you realize life is too short and it is a matter of fact that you have to accept it and the thing which motivates me maximum is the beautiful lines of another beautiful song:  

Yunhi chala, chal raahi, Yunhi chala, chal raahi,
Kitni haseen hai ye duniya
Phool saare jamele, dekh phoolon ke mele
Badi rangeen hai duniya...

Jhelum Express vs. Love Marriage

Her: So?

Me: (Filled with gol gappa’s in my mouth) so what?

Her: When are we going to marry?

Me: (Ahh No, not again, the same question) Arey bhai meetha khila yaar!

Her: Reply nah?

Me: About what?

Her: Tell me directly if  you don’t want to marry me!

Me: Arey, it’s not like this betu, we’ll marry soon.

Her: When?

Me: Umm… Even you know, I am not settled. Abhi age hi kya hai apni. How can I predict?

Her: But still I feel you have something in your mind?

Me: Yes, next year

Her: (Happily) Promise?

Me: Yes Baby promise.

Her: Ok, abhi shadi ka decide kar hi liya hai, so mom dad ko kab bataoge?

Me: (Aaj to yeh mood me hai bête, aaram se) Soon.

Her: How sooner?

Me: ???????????

Her: Better, tell them early they would also need some time.

Me: Uhmmmm…

Her: Vaibhav, talk to me.

Me: I am.

Her: Really? You are just responding to my questions.

Me: Na…na…

Her: See…

Me: I’ll tell them, just wait for sometime.

Her: I've been waiting since long. You have to tell them this month and that’s final. Understand?

Me: (With wide mouth open) how can you do this to me?

Her: You have not left me with any choice. The ball is in your court now. Play sensibly. I can give you a suggestion, there is an extended weekend coming on Thursday go home and tell them about us.

Me: (As if it’s that easy) let me think.

It would be a holiday on coming Thursday and I will take a leave on Friday and so there will be a four day holidays so as a normal homesick man (this is what I was showing to my colleagues)would run home. I was stuck into IRCTC website for my reservation. (Since, I was among the few lucky ones who successfully book TATKAL TICKET.) It is a 14 hours journey from Pune to Home and the reservations most of the times are full.

Anyways, I have to apply for degree at university, will definitely meet my school friends this time, will had spicy Chinese food from Sharma Jee’s New market, will convince Mom to cook “Daal-Baati” & Moong Bhajiyas these are thoughts that were there in my mind from past three months as a part of going home. But after talking to "her" I don’t see any of them to accomplished as my priorities changed by a 5 minute conversation. Suddenly the booking page opened, I was again proud on my success. Suddenly, my phone rang it was Mom.

Mom: Hey beta! How are you? How is everything? Have you taken breakfast?

Me: I want to marry a girl of my choice.

Mom: Whaaaaat????????? Is she of our caste?

Me: No.

Mom: Are you in your senses? What rubbish are you taking?

Me: Yes, I am.

Mom: It never happened in our family and it won’t happen even in the coming generations. Better you listen to me. Have you ever thought what people will say, what this society will say? People were right we shouldn’t have sent you out for studies. Better you pack your bags and come back here. You’ve totally ruined our name.

Me: But Mom I have a job here, I won’t get release on a short notice.

Mom: No worries, resign. There are lots of opportunities here. Come back.

Me: I won’t get reservations this quick.

Mom: Come by plane.

Me: Its month end, I don’t have money for flight.

Mom: Its 8^th today, but I know this would be month end for you. I will transfer money in your account tomorrow. Book a ticket and come back.

Me: Are you serious?

Mom: Yes, very much.

Sadly, I hung the phone and went back to work with lots of negative thoughts in my mind. Although, I was prepared that this is about to come but not in this way. I was still thinking how to convince her, what I should say so that she listens.

This is again a very common story. We are allowed to do most of the things the way we want but when it comes to biggest decision of life: marriage, most of parents do not accept. The thing which again and again comes to my mind is “Parents are always right, they were the ones who brought us in the world and they were the ones who were at your side when everyone was against you, all the decisions that they have made were correct.” Now, let’s move to other aspect. Marriage is a decision that people usually take after theyget matured enough and if I am not wrong same it is the case with this choosing love for lifetime. Although, choosing a right partner is not in our hands since there is no such thing called as perfect partner. You choose what you feel good is. We need a partner who is matured enough to understand the complexities of life. We men need more of a friend then a possessive girlfriend or life partner.

I really don’t know about the parameters. What should be an ideal age to get married? Some say after you settle down well enough and what all things this well enough statement includes?  A good job or a 2 BHK flat or a lavish car?

For a normal earning person like me who works in a small organization, will need some time to fulfill these dreams but does that mean, should I be judged only on my assets column? I really don’t know because parents want to give their daughter to a well settled and established man.

My ticket session was about to expire, my hands were shaking, I moved to coffee machine to grab some coffee. Something, strike tomy mind I ran back to my laptop the session expired. I logged back again, booked my ticket (since, this is an off season so tatkal ticket was easily available.)

I've decided I will convince my parents about her. They will agree. I believe. So, I am catching my Jhelum Express. Are you?

Love, Sex & Dhokha!!!

Hello everyone,

Well, it is said everything happens for a good cause though I am not happy after breaking my streak of publishing blogs every Friday but this is the way life goes.Well, my topic name does suggest that I am writing another review of the movie as that was there in the last blog but it is actually about the current situation that is there in our society or in world as mentioned in most of my blogs.

Anyways, people say you fall in Love when your luck is not favoring you, your stars are afraid of you and God is in the mood to make fun of you but I really don’t feel so. Many philosophers have defined love in their own way but for me love is something, when you start wearing colors you don’t like to (and everybody compliments you), you start loving romantic movies and stories, when you start feeling the depth of the words, when you start associating love stories with your life, when your mobile gets recharged automatically when your balance is low, when someone learns to cook your favorite dish and prepares the same for you, when someone wears your favorite color or dress again and again. Everybody has their opinion about love.
I am the one of those who truly believes that Movies and TV serials are the reality of society. Most of the shows that are famous are because people relate them from their own life. Ok, I am not talking about the exaggeration but the story line is somehow matches our life. I believe TV series “HOW I MET YOUR MOTHER” cannot be easily acceptable if telecasted publically in our country but irony is it is among the most downloaded TV series in India. Although the show is really good but the concept of sex, incidentally which is the second hero of my blog, there is introduced very frankly which the hypocrite society of our country won’t be able to accept. 

Gone are the days when men says love begins with eyes, all they say these days is it begins with something situated lower then eyes. Bitter truth!

I still remember the scenes from the movies releasing during my adolescent years where a hero-heroine used to come closer, roses strike and the other scene used to be heroine weeping about what just happened. At that time I could not co-relate with things but the Internet and Media had made things so easily available. It is said time changes and yes it does as we can see. Youngsters these days want everything simply complicated. Children aging 12 years are into relationships. Children are exploring about sex quickly but are not able to see the adverse effects of it. They are maturing before their age. I truly believe maturity should not come early, as if it will; the child loses its innocence.

Somehow, love is losing its charm and the next thing is becoming important and so where the third hero is included i.e. Dhoka (betray). We are the country of more than 1.27 billion. We proudly say that we are the country that produces largest Engineers, Doctors, MBA’s & Scientist but how can we forget we are also the country with number of rape cases in a single day.

Guys throwing acid, MMS cases have been so common. Girls rejecting proposals and boys making their MMS’s or their personal photographs public is one of the very common way of taking revenge. I really feel bad when the youth of our country is involved in the things like this. People mess up with their relationships, break ups is a common thing and one should be matured enough to handle this. If you are matured enough to make relations, you should also be matured to sustain those and if you are not able to sustain, then end those on happy notes.

Give me some sunshine... Give me some rain.....Give me another chance i wanna grow up once again!!!!

Hello everyone,

Its Friday again, a new movie will release today and so is my blog. So here I am. After writing so much on the serious topics, I was looking for something fresh and light. Then, one of my good friend and colleague suggested me why not to write on some movie. There have been lot of talks about movies on Friday. Though its not a review of recent release. But i want talk about an old movie and I feel this is one of the best movies of all the time. It’s about “3 idiots.
The movie started with controversy when Aamir Khan denied the fact that the movie is inspired from a famous Indian fictional author Chetan Bhagat's "5 point someone". When, I was new in the reading world, Chetan Bhagat used to be my favorite writer and hence I was eagerly waiting for the movie to come. When this movie released I was pursuing MBA and I was living in Indore, the movie fever was everywhere, finally I decided too buy ticket in Black. Anyways, I grabbed my seat and the music begins “Kaha se aaya tha wo, yaar humara tha wo, kaha gaya usey dhundo.” It’s a fact even you all will agree that when a book is converted into a movie, we start comparing it and here I was connecting the moments that, which character was missing in the book and the movie was progressing. Honestly speaking there were some instances that are same as in book, but the movie had its different identity. Well you all must be thinking that after three years why I am writing about the movie, the reasons are many but things which we I think should be highlighted :
1.       The first and for most, "do what you like to". There are many live and proved examples in front of us. The one who follows his heart and do what he likes to proves himself Champion. Let me quote the same example from the movie, if Sachin Tendulkar was asked to be a singer and Lata Mangeskar was asked to be a cricketer, had they been as successful as they are now.

2.       The second one is for parents, don’t force your children to be Engineer or Doctor, to pursue education is important but don’t decide their career. Let them be what they want to be.

3.       The third learning is for muggers, there are some in every batch. Mugging can help you only during the exams but not in real life. Ultimately, “tumhara balatkaar ho jaayegi.”

4.       It takes some time to be what you want to be. There is no rocket science; neither guarantee that any particular course or college can provide you a handsome job. It’s all about the skills; if you have good ones success will be your girlfriend. Kamyaab hone ke liye nahi, kaabil banne ke liye padho, success jhak maar ke peeche aayegi.

5.        It is said parents are the only ones in this entire world who would be most happy if you succeed and are always ready to help you till the time you finally settle down in life. Be frank with them and always tell them about your ambitions, passion and hobbies.

6.       Do not bother about what people say, “Kuch to log kahenge, logo ka kaam hai kehna.” Till the time you  you have are happy, everything is right and perfect.


Well, the reason I am praising 3 idiots is the movie gives us a clear message of the current situation of our country. I remember my days, after schooling, I was not clear what to do. Being a science student, I was advising to pursue Engineering. I enrolled myself for Engineering; initial one and a half year was horrible, nothing was going fine. It is said when you are at your worst you find who are your real friends. I realized how people are; anyways I completed my Engineering but was jobless. I won’t say that is most because recession, it was but I was not ready to fight then I decided to go for MBA. Unlike Engineering my days at my MBA’s were fun, but there was something missing, I was doing a course and studying something which usually students learn in 11th standard, the journal entries in Accounts and as like every engineer I was again struggling.
After MBA, when I appeared for interviews, the question that every interviewer asked me was "You are a software engineer why do you want to come in sales?" But sir now I am an MBA too. (my mind always replies like this.) Thank god, I handled these questions diplomatically. The similar question in the movie Aamir asks to Kareena- Jab MBA hi karna tha to Engineering kyu kia? Or abb America me bank me naukri karr rha hai?

This is my story but I know this is one of the very common story in our country. We are the country who produces maximum Engineers in a year. Our education system according to a survey is the third toughest and successful. These days everyone wants a 5 figure salaried job and to settle abroad. No-one wants to settle in India. A client from Germany was sharing me that the biggest edge India has over other countries is the population of youth or young blood. But I connect it the saying “Oldies and running country and new ones are running Facebook.”

I accept the fact that in our country youth lack proper guidance. There is just a rat race. We do what our friends do or our relatives advise us to do. Indian parents either want their child to be an Engineer or a Cricketer. Money is not everything; many rich brads are not able to sleep properly. Work satisfaction is the biggest thing and it will earn huge for you.

Lastly, just want to say do the things that your heart tells you and yes kiss karne me naak beech me nahi aati.

Marriage is a wonderful institution but who wants to live in an institution.

Again it was same long and tiring day and I was back to home hoping that Bhabhi would have cooked paneer as promised. When I stepped in, the flat was filled with an awesome aroma of paneer and hot jalebi’s. And when I was enjoying this awesome aroma, suddenly my phone start ringing “Maa Meri Maa, Pyari Maa Mumma.” I picked the phone, it was Mom, and she said I emailed some photographs of girls, kindly select one. Before I could react, she hung up the phone.

Marriage- I feel the biggest decision of life with the dilemma of choosing a right person to be your life-partner. Are you seriously ready to share your life with someone who you may or may not know? Although love marriages are getting successful and now a days youth want to choose their partner by their wish. But the real question is whether you want to get married or not. Relationships these days have become more complex in the era of social networking. People are enjoying their life virtually in virtual world. Though at some point of time in life you have to connect your virtual world to real world.

Guys enjoy not being in committed relationships, roaming, enjoying their lives the way they want and I really don’t see people who want to get married (including me). It is said “Shaadi ka laddu aisa hai, jo khaaye wo pachtaaye, aur jo na khaaye wo bahut jyada pachtaye.” With inflation, the marriage thing, (at least for boys) is always bottom in priority list.

If you are bachelor then you have right to:
1.       You are not liable to anybody.
2.       You can come home anytime.
3.       You can keep your apartment the way it is. (You’ll find all the things as it is as you’ve left) I know it is not true.
4.       You can call your friends, stay with them, party, booze and do anything you like to.
5.       You can spend all your salary on yourself.
6.       You can wear and buy any color .(This is another important point as what we like is not allowed our partner do not like)

Although, there are some points which will pull you to the institute of marriage. As like:
1.       Since, you have someone in your life you are liable to answer so you manage your things, you follow a routine which makes you organised.
2.        You don't have to eat out daily. You know when you would reach home someone must have cooked your favorite dish.
3.       Your apartment will be finely managed and you can find a place to sit and everything at its place (Best of all you don't have to think when you last used or where you left your).
4.       You will have couple parties and family gathering to enjoy instead of house full of smoke and bottles rolling on floor.
5.       Although, the chances are low that you’ll be allowed to wear clothes of your own choice but believe me guys we always purchase the same type of clothes whereas girls gets better for us.
6.       For how many more years you’ll walk alone. After some time you need someone to walk by your side(Finally, at some point of time you need someone to be there for you. It’s a hard and proved truth).
8.       This point maybe controversial and some of you may not agree but if you have a life earning partner then she divide sorrows and multiply happiness.

And, so it is up to you to decide, whether you wanna have this laddoo or not!!!
Waise the aroma of Paneer and jalbi and my taste buds are pushing me to the institute of obligation. I was also curious to have a glance of pictures mom sent me. I love LADDOOS and I feel I will surely taste it sooner or later

Her Day- For Her

Women: A Mother, Sister, Daughter, Wife, Girlfriend, Best-friend. They teach men to express and accept, live and love, share and care.

Women’s Day fever is on and every news channel and newspaper is full of talks about women’s achievements, their success story and what not.

But does this talk really make any sense? Do we really respect them? Is celebrating Women’s Day really worth? Will distributing free passes for movies or discounts for women make any difference? I know there is a lot of talk after the Delhi-Rape case but are there any corrective measures? Instead the rape cases have been increased after this case. Is creating Nirbhaya fund really worth?

Why it is necessary for a woman to wait for food till her husband eats? Why is it necessary for her to fast for her husband’s long life? Why on earth we have thoughts like this still in our society? Why I see mothers advising their girls to be like this? Why it is necessary for a woman to be mute when her husband makes some decisions? I am not at all criticizing our society but some norms are utterly stupid. I still remember the time when girls were admitted in Government Schools and the boys were sent to English medium schools.

It was really sad when our neighbouring country China commented and made fun of us after Nirbhaya’s case.They were the one saying at least we do not have culture like this. We Indians who feel proud on our culture and praise it to be the oldest culture in the world but we have nothing to say because of our deeds.There was a case of October 2012 of Orissa. There is a tribe in Orissa where every year a fair is organized. In those fairs a man (even if he is married) can marry any girl of any age; all he needs to do is apply vermilion at the parting of girl’s hair. There is a 60 year man choose a girl who is just 12, when girl denies she is forced to go with the same man.

Also, people leave newly born baby “girls” on roads. This is the era where we talk about the modernization and development of women; we still have cases like this?

Giving some special rights in the constitution or reserving seats in buses, trains won’t change anything. I find some men saying your revealing clothes motivates me to rape, if this is the case then your stupid face motivates me to punch your face. Should I?  How can we expect to be in world’s community if we are not able to give a secure atmosphere to the residents of the country? Today why a common man fears to go out with his wife/girlfriend late in night? Can’t we build a safe and secure society where girls can walk freely?

Then there are people who give some nuisance statements to leverage their image. People advising girls to keep pepper spray in their purses, to learn martial-arts. All of these protective measures are fine, but why girls have to live with fear.

I really don’t know from where the fix-ups should be started but yes we can start it from home. We should teach boys to respect woman. Why do we show respect only during Navratri? We touch their feet, feed them and worship them and later disgrace them.

While giving birth to a child the pain a mother feels is equal to the pain felt when 52 bones breaks down. On the other hand we disrespect them, kill them. It is horrifying see movies like “Matraubhumi” where a girl gets married to six men. Even mythological stories tells if woman is disrespected it brings destruction. Lord Ravana of Ramayana and Lord Duroyodhana of Mahabharata are some of the perfect examples.

God created woman, he brought her onto this earth and assigned various roles. She plays as a kid, adopts her mom's way of living. Continuing her personal life journey being as a daughter, sister and, moves on to be a wife, then mother then, sister-in-law, aunt, mother-in-law sacrificing many things in her life, joins her new family but I find many men criticizing, comparing, insulting, disrespecting her....... instead should encourage, support women to come up.

Let’s come together and make our society, our country a happy and most importantly safe place to live. I promise to be supportive and protective.

DO YOU???

Truth is I don’t know where I am going with my life, I am just taking it day by day!!!

Truth is I don’t know where I am going with my life, I am just taking it day by day!!!- (A very meaningful line which defines the ideal youth life)

Last Saturday when I was planning to relax, I got a phone call from one of my old friend residing in the same city. He was going to doctor and asked me to join. Since, the doctor he was consulting was a beautiful lady so I was happy to join him. I was wondering that what happened to this beast; the reason being he was 6 feet’s tall and muscular.  We reached the doctor’s clinic by 10 and there were almost 12 people waiting for their turn. At 2 pm we got a chance to meet the doctor. As doctor got to know that we work in a software company, she wrote some 3-4 tests. We went to the laboratory for tests and got all the tests done. The lab-assistant told us that the reports would be ready after two days. The next week was hectic and we didn’t have any chance to take the reports. Again, it was Saturday and the beauty of the doctor forced me to waste my weekend with him. Anyways, since we visited after 1 week, doctor’s assistant asked us to pay the consultation fees again. After seeing the reports, the (beautiful) doctor told that my friend is suffering from the problem of “…………………….”

Wait for a minute, what she said????? Depression…. I was not able to believe on my ears, she suggested some exercises and meditations and told him to avoid all the conditions that make him tensed.

 I am not here to discuss about the doctors or their practices, I want to discuss about the problem of depression in young blood. Gone are the days when oldies used to face this problem. This is one of the most common problems among the youth these days. Some common reasons for this are:

1.       No girlfriend/boyfriend.

2.       Unemployment

3.       Low salary/ increments

4.       Performance

5.       Pushy Bosses

The world is going competitive and we should be ready for the competition but the problem is we are not able to handle the pressure. Office issues and worries contribute 70% of our worries. I always wonder if God would have made a nail where we can hang all our worries when at exit of the Office door.

So, how to avoid these problems, there are some small things that we usually avoid or simply miss because of our busy schedule and I can bet if we try those simple things we’ll enjoy our life like hell. Some of those things are:

     Walking bare foot on sand/ seashore. I used to think that how walking on a seashore bare foot be one of the most wonderful feelings but trust me it really works. I really cannot define that awesome feeling in words. It is simply amazing.

    Start waking up early. I know it’s really tough, working late hours, then there are various commitments but believe me, “Wake up early in morning and go for a small walk”. Feel the beauty of nature. Just rewind your life for a moment and think when it was that you have seen sun rising? I know it’s been long but it really works. Try it.

   1.    Start exercise. You will feel that you have done something great for yourself.

2.       Try cooking for instance; I myself being a horrible cook can advice you this is because you will love it.      The time invested here is well worth the money.

3.       Join twitter and by twitter I mean twitter. Facebook these days had become so crowded. Your Aunt, Uncle, Maternal Uncle, colleagues and Bosses, everyone is there on facebook you cannot outburst on facebook but twitter will help you doing that, you can write as much and as what you like, you don’t need to censor.

4.       Learn some new language; it will help you groom both personally and professionally.

5.       Playing old video games, especially Mario. Here you may contradict on my opinion but still it’s a huge stress reliever. It engages you to the core. True Story.

6.       Meditation- although I don’t believe in the meditation theory but research says it really does. I simply cannot sit and concentrate, but people say it improves your focus, sharps your mind and help you to concentrate.

7.       Help someone you don’t know. The pleasure you’ll feel cannot match with any feeling. There are some simple feelings which cannot be bounded in words and it is among one of those.

8.      This is another interesting thing and this is the one I am trying to convert into reality. It’s having a pet dog.  The way animals express their love for human is incomparable.

9.  Start reading some good and motivational books. “The Secrets” by Rhonda Byrne and “The Monk Who Sold his Ferrari” by Robin Sharma are the ones you must read before dying.

10. Start writing diary, the way you want to plan your day and the way your day went. It should also include the way your life is moving. It will help you remember some those simple moments you want to remember for your life.

 I am not a doctor, life-coach or psychologist to advise you, but these are small things which if tried can make the difference.

Hindi----National Language

Hindi- the language with one of the biggest heart, the language with the biggest vocabulary, the language with feelings, the language whose words shows respect.

Well, we say it is our National language, but it really is?

Being in sales, I happened to travel many parts of the country, I happened to stay in South for 6 months and my trip was horrible, though people are helping but they do not know HINDI. Being an Indian you should be ashamed if you don’t know Hindi. On every Railway Station there is a sentence written “Pratidin Hindi ka Ek Shabd Sikhiye, ye humari Matra Bhasha hai”. Being and brought up in a hindi state I really had lot of problems in a state where people rarely know hindi. Hindi is not even there in the syllabus many states or it is just an optional language to learn. I was more than surprised to know that there are people in our country, here I am specifically commenting on the youth of our country. Their pronunciations of hindi are horrible, they even fumble while speak. If we had given it the status of our Mother Language doesn’t it deserve a right to be a compulsory language?

We all have heard that joke, An American returned from his Indian tour and met with one of his Indian friend who asked, so how was my India? He said pretty well. Indian again asked him and how are Indians, he said I never met any Indian, I visited Punjab, I met Punjabis, I visited Bihar I met Bihari’s, I visited Mumbai, I met Marathi’s, I visited Gujrat, I met Gujrati’s, then  I went to Chennai, there I met Anna’s, but dude I haven’t met a single Indian.

Irony is this is very much true….

In marketing I’ve learnt a term known as “bifurcation of market” where we bifurcate our own market as for example when fair n lovely launched fair n handsome, which was a cream specifically for man. For all these years everyone was using the same cream but now they have launched a specific product for man.

Similarly, our politicians bifurcate or divide us. Someone says you need to have a work permit to work in particular state, someone says because of you guys our people are not getting opportunities. All I am trying to say is I am living in India, a democratic country, this is my right. I can move to any part of the country, I can work/ business in any part of the country. These are all my fundamental rights. Work permit are you kidding me? I need to have work permit in my own country because I do not belong to this state. It reminds me of one of the good saying in movie “Lage Raho Munna Bhai” where he says bapu aaj jinda hote to kehte, “desh to apna ho gaya, par log paraye ho gaye.” Is this the reason why people sacrificed their life for seeing our country like this?

English, popularly known as Global Language is compulsory for all. I’ve even heard people saying if you don’t know English you really are backward. This reminds me of Chinese culture, they are so deeply in love with their language that every work they do is in their language. They are the only country who had not welcomed English with their open hearts, all their works is done in their language and are still successful. They prove us that English is not compulsion to be successful.  Though I am not saying we should turn our culture like Chinese culture, being a developing country and an outsourcing hub, English is more like necessity to us. Being a country where people are ready to accept all the cultures and rituals with open heart, I am proud to say we are the only country in the world with 415 living languages.

That brings me to another point that whether we require promotion of our language? There are various schools in our country where the interviews of parents are also taken in English. Is this justified? All they claim is whether a particular child will be able to do his homework or not.

What I mainly try to speak here about is why in our country Hindi has become more like an outsider or Alien. I really feel sad when someone asks me to convert a word/phrase into Hindi. Don’t you feel shame that you don’t know about your mother language.