50 Shades of Feelings

Hey Friends,


I am dedicating this blog to a very effervescent and dear friend of mine who is also my homonym "Vaibhav "  to suggest this beautiful topic.


It is said it is very complex to understand feelings. Here I am not trying to understand or preach about feelings. 50 shades of feelings is actually the collection of those feelings which most of us have felt in our lifetime.


1.       Feeling of Happiness  : I guess one of the most amazing and beautiful feeling. This is one of those thing which even if you don't want to share it is so evocative that it is clearly visible  from your face, from your actions and from a beautiful and continuous smile on your face. Yes the one you got just now.


2.       Feeling of Gratitude : Ahhh! The feeling which I was dying to write about. I really have a beautiful example of this feeling. I guess most of us remember the date 16 November 2013. Give it a little stress on your mind.


Got it?


Okay it is the day when the "LEGEND" wait for it "DARY" batsman retired(You will get it if u follow “Barney Stinson”). Yes, you got it right, the day when the Great Sachin Tendulkar retired from the game of Cricket. Most of us remember his speech, and also after his speech he went to the Cricket Pitch and touched it with both of his hands. This is what gratitude is. This is what Sanskars are. (No, I beg of you kindly don't relate it to Alok Nath's Sanskars) this is what we Indians believe in and I am proud of it. The one thing which gave him everything he respected that. Unlike English Cricketers who invented this game and  peed on the very pitch after winning the Ashes Series last year.


3.       Feeling of Bitchy : John Gray (Apne "Man are from Mars and Woman are from Venus" Wale Kehte hai) A woman has every right to be bitchy. Gone are the days when only woman used to bitch. I guess everyone specially Man are very bitchy these days. The tremendous growth in Smart Phones and Whatsapp had made even man bitchy and everyone should. It atleast  reduces your friction of frustration.


4.       Feeling of Exaggeration : A feeling which keeps motivating people to exaggerate things either happen to them or to their surroundings in other words it also motivates people to keep on speaking like I happened to watch the movie "The Wolf of the Wall Street" and such is DiCaprio's greatness that he can take an average film and marinates it with histrionics, garnish it with need and perfect dialogue delivery and screen presence and serve it to you as a bliss delicacy.  (Bhaisaab aap convince hue ki main aur bolu?)


5.       Feeling of Lust: Yes, a kind of feeling... Okay, I am not writing on this. I think we got it.


6.       Feeling of Patriotism: Seriously, saying  I see this feeling only when India is playing (especially cricket) and we are about to win the game and suddenly someone says anything against our players. (talwarein khich jaati hai By God). Yes, there were some good performances by AAP supporters as well.


7.       Feeling of Victimized: (Why this happens to me or Why on Earth it is always me GOD) You wake up late, there is no water neither for bath neither to drink, maid cannot cook so you to eat out, you go to the dressing table to take a bath from deodorant and you find out it is also finished. You clean your face through wet tissues, wear your formals and didn't find socks and handkerchief. You move out and in a hurry you break the signal. There were some 10 others but only you got caught. Parking in basement is full and guess what your boss comes before you. (feeling of totally manhoos day naa!!!).


8.       Feeling of Agony: The feeling which makes you suffer mentally sometimes physical too. It’s the feeling which makes your mind struggle.


9.       Feeling of Comfortably Numb: This is the feeling which separates you from all other feelings. Something good or intense which keeps you in this feeling for a long time.  (Daruyo main ye feeling kaafi paayi jaati hai. Sorry brothers if I hurt the feeling.) :P


10.   Feeling of Comfortably Dumb: A kind of feeling which occurs when you want to say something or a lot but you unable to do so . Sitting infront of a girl you like the most. She is travelling alone in the bus, sitting just next to you. BUTTTTTTTTTT and our friends are like (Abey saaley “Bol de Pyaar hai, khamosh kyu hai khada, hum agar hote to bol diya hota.”)


11.   Feeling of Temper:( Saaley Beep.. Beep… beep teri beep ki beep, uski beep beep) in most of the cases this feeling comes like this only. This feeling sometimes block your capability to use your mind in the present situation. Outputs sometimes are not good. I consider it the most dangerous feeling. (Ataa!!! Maajhi Satakli)


12.   Feeling of Being Tired or Retired: I usually see this feeling in one of my friend.( I am planning to present him a bottle of Revital on his coming birthday). His glory is such great that even I start feeling tired after looking at him. (I pray Revital will work). You will normally start feeling tired after seeing him. I can guarantee that there must be someone in your surrounding too.  It also happens to you if you have to go to the office on weekends and Mondays.. (Yahaa har wo shaks udass hai jise Monday office jaana hai)


13.   Feeling of Being Evil: The sleeping devil in you wakes up.. Bwahahahahahaha… Hmmm, new vehicle, lets hit some scratches. Animals lets hit some stones on them. Public property lets break it. Remember the Bombay Talkies -Murraba Story, the person sitting  above throws the bottle of murraba from upper berth to break it. Ohh yes the cruel one. That very feeling.


14.   Feeling of Over Imaginative: The feeling which takes us to a world made by us with no flaws. From tomorrow I am planning to wake up early in the morning and I will start jogging, then running, then gym. I want to look thin. I will then participate in the run for a cause marathon and will win it. People will praise me. My name appear in Pune Times. I may then also participate in the International Marathon in Mumbai. Next Morning : Woke up at 9 am. 
  
15.   Feeling Possessive: One of very sweet feeling when you start realizing that you are losing importance in the eyes of person you love most. The sweetest example would be when a new child is born in the family and is pampered more. The elder one start feeling possessive about Mom and Dad. In our childhood most of us who are bestowed with some loving younger siblings must have felt this feeling.


16.   Feeling of Being childish: Another very sweet feeling. For me this feeling is when you are in relationship and you have the total freedom to behave childish. You can do any stupid thing and you love the fact that there is someone to look after you.


17.   Feeling of Subordination or Bossy: That very feeling which let us behave like BOSS. Maybe while behaving with our sub-ordinates or with our juniors during our College days. Remember the time when we use to boss our juniors and order them to write our assignments.


18.   Feeling Bamboozled (Confused) : One of the most occurred feeling especially when you are with your girlfriend. As for Example :
She: Honey, I want to buy a magenta color foot-wears.
Me: How exactly magenta looks?
She : A shade of pink, but not exactly pink which looks like dark pink but not like strawberry pink.
Me: (With a bamboozled face) Okay. (As if mujhe samjh aa gaya)


19.   Feeling of Guilt: Done something wrong. Everyone must have, someday or once in a lifetime, knowingly or unknowingly but if you have then this feeling will not let you sleep in the night. This is the feeling which keeps you pinching from inside.


20.   Feeling of Secretive/ Investigative: That feeling which forces us to keep things about ourselves or others to preserved in our heart. We don't say anything about them. These maybe good or bad (which is in most of the cases). But we keep them secret to save relationships.


21.   Feeling of Love: Another great feeling to be in. It is the best feeling to be in. Yes the best of the lot. I don't feel like to say more on this apart from "Itney Logon main keh do aankho ko, itna ooncha naa bola karein log mera naam jaan jaatey hai".


22.   Feeling of Studious: A very serious kind of feeling. In my case this feeling usually occurred very less during my study days. Yes, but there are people in this world who feels like study.


23.   Feeling of Wasted: Sunday morning 11:59 am, you woke up and then sleep again. Woke up again at 2:00 pm had your breakfast and lunch together then decide to watch a complete season of your favorite serial- "HIMYM or Prison Break or Friends". At 8:00 slept again, so the feeling which pokes you that you haven't done anything in the whole day is the feeling of wasted.


24.   Feeling of Sporty: You might be feeling that only masculine have this feeling. I don't think so. Anyone who is ready to experiment or anyone who can take jokes on him/her is sporty.


25.   Feeling of Irrational/Illogical: This is the feeling which you might have felt if you've met an AAP supporter recently (Sorry AAP fans, you won't understand this). The feeling which makes you feel like it a total wastage of time and…..  (rehn de yaar, yehi feeling aa gayi)


26.   Feeling of Buff: Friends, Game of thrones, How I met your mother, Big Bang theory, Sherlock. Dude! I only watch sitcoms. It is the new way to be in trend. (Zamane k sath chlna hai dekhna padega Tarak Mehta k darshako se jaahir maafi). A feeling when you realize everything on Indian Serials are totally stupid and English Serials are cool.


27.   Feeling Killer: The very feeling when you meet somebody pugnacious. First of all they don't listen to you and they do anything to  convince you on their point. Yes you are right again the AAP supporters.


28.   Feeling of Cowboy:  "Let's Cowboy up". I guess the phrase might have said it all but still it's when things are getting tough you have to get back up, dust yourself off and keep trying.  The very feeling which keeps you ready for the things coming.


29.   Feeling of bully: Many of us are the victim of the feeling. Yes, you can remember your Manager. Although, there are people who make this feeling as their profession. (Arey! Kitne aadmi they)


30.   Feeling of Hope: Again one of the best feeling. The feeling which bring optimism. The feeling which keeps you can edge, the feeling which never let you lose, the feeling which lets you believe.  India needs 100 runs off last 5 0vers 8 wickets down. Dhoni is still on the crease. Yes we can!!! 


31.   Feeling of Who-Gives-A-Damn! : The very feeling when you don't care about anything apart from yourself. (Why should I aakhir meri hi Zindagi hai)   My friend to me:
My Friend: Hey dude, AAP will be contesting in this Lok Sabha Elections.
Me: Who- Who-Gives-A-Damn!
My friend: Sachin retired from all formats of the game.
Me: Who- Who-Gives-A-Damn!
My friend: Dude, look at your paunch. The speed at which you're gaining weight you will burst one day.
Me: Who- Who-Gives-A-Damn!
My friend: Dude! Result is out. You got 3 backlogs. I am All Clear.
Me: Abey kya baat karr rha hai. :-O


32.   Feeling of Irritation : The things which you piss off. Want to get this feeling, try a brawl with AAP supporters. (please don't carry a knife with you while trying this stunt)


33.   Feeling of Being Neglected: I guess the worst feeling ever. It happens when your dear ones or anyone start neglecting you for any of the shortcomings. Shortcoming s may be off yours or theirs. You are very vulnerable and emotional during this feeling.


34.   Feeling of Outburst: I find this type of feeling in people who keep neglecting small things but they store those small things somewhere in the back portion of your mind and on one fine day when  they have their mind full they will outburst they have all those points which you barely remember.


35.   Feeling of Showoff: There are some people are in this universe who when purchase a new branded watch, jeans, shoes or underwear they like to exhibition it to everyone close around. Tag themselves with some 50 other innocent people in a new place they have checked in.


36.   Feeling of "Wanna Be" :  Some people are COOL and some people try and become KOOL. This is one of the very dangerous feeling. This feeling will suppress all other talents you have and will make you something which is not you. Usually happens when guys see a stud chatting and flirting with girls or when girls see a that a lady among them is getting more attention than this feeling usually arrives. You try to copy them instead of developing your own style. And results most of the times are horrible.


37.   Feeling of Being Alone : You are working in a metro city living far from your family. Room- mates are out of the town and your friends are busy in their office. Your internet is not barred and your laptop's screen is not working. You start missing your home and suddenly you start realizing that you are very alone, you don't have anyone in this big city of 35 lakh people. (Mind you : Aisi feeling bina gadgets k hi aati hai)


38.   Feeling of eternal relief : I have one of the best example of this feeling. You are outside hanging out and suddenly you feel like going to the loo to pee but unable to do so since you don't have one nearby. You try to control yourself, you will walk slowly, your eyes will search for the various possible destination but don't find anything. No alone paths, no restrooms around nothing. You don't even want to speak to somebody and suddenly your eyes locate a very old washroom which was made in 1967, you slowly walk down to your destination with one hand closing the nose. After completing your mission you will feel an eternal relief which matches no other feeling in the world. :P


39.   Feeling  of Existence : (Kya le k aaye they, kya le k jaaogey) People who are bored of their life or work routine find this feeling again and again. So, they leave each and everything and join Aam Admi Party. Just Kidding I mean they start looking for the existence of their life. (Some popular questions include Why are we on the earth, what is the meaning of this life etc etc)


40.   Feeling of Being a Gyaani : Sometimes when you have some good knowledge you like to share it with people around but it turns out to be something in totally different way. There is someone in the group or life who always acts like intellect. Maybe someone who is from an entirely different world.  (Sometimes people make me feel like this.)


41.   Feeling of Pride : This is one of the feeling which may make you ignorant. Everyone should be proud of himself or herself but the point is your grounds should be morally correct. This is one of the best feeling if your parents have this feeling because of you.


42.   Feeling of "Being Special" : I usually have this feeling on my birthdays and I guess most of the men feel the same on their birthdays but it is just vice-versa in the case of ladies since everyone tries their level best to impress them by giving them seats in bus, by allowing them to take things first no matter how long you have been in this queue or by listening to them seriously if they are complaining. They always enjoy this feeling.                                              
43.   Feeling of Sad: I guess the worst feeling among all. This is the very feeling nobody likes to be in but someday somewhere it appears in your life. The worst thing about this feeling is you don't like anything if you are in this feeling.


44.   Feeling of Recovery: Another best feeling after gratitude, there is something special in this feeling that keeps you motivated and energetic to recover cover from any bad incidence you had recently.  (Even I am trying to recover, Somebody stole my Nike Shoes from temple).  #Listening to "Mujhe Jeene nahi deti hai Yaad teri." (Aankhe Aaj bhi us manhoos ko dhoondh rahi hai jisne mere jootey churaye). 







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45.   Feeling of Anticipated Joy:  Have you ever had butterflies in your stomach. If yes, then this is the feeling . In this you have a strong intuition that something good is about to happen to us. Being in this feeling is amazing.


46.   Feeling of Scared : Red face, sweaty forehead and heartbeats running on full pace. This maybe because a dog running behind or people running behind. Maybe because of a movie or a incident. Another weird feeling to be in.


47.   Feeling of Surprise : It is one of those feelings which takes you on the top of the world. Good in most of the times but if turned out to be bad then boss you are totally screwed.


48.   Feeling of ambitious : The feeling which always keep you on your feet, the feeling which motivates you to prove yourself to the world, the feeling which makes you something . (#listening to Chand Tarey tod Laau, saari duniya par me chaau… bas itna sa khawab hai)


49.   Feeling of Adrenaline Rush : A feeling of over excitement. It’s an extremely intense feeling which lets you do anything. If you are attacked by a dog you will notice an energetic feeling that gives you rise in strength to fight with him. You don't feel pain at that particular moment. There is a sudden boost in energy and rise in your breathing. But, it remains for a very short period. I wish If it could remain forever.


And the last and the ultimate one 


50.   Feeling of Wind-In-Hair: This is something to deal of the idea or the thought you have of which you are so sure that it brings a new motivation and happiness in your life, it is something which you don't share but it can be easily depicted from your face.

The Day When I Lost My Shoes...

Nahi- nahi doston ye saaliyo k jootey churaney waley sukh ka vivran nahi.


Actually, it is that very day when I was coming back from office and was wandering and looking at various options available that are suitable for both my stomach and pocket. I applied breaks at a temple near square of one of my favorite God, Gannu Bhai. Dear Ganesji!!!


I went inside took prasad and when I returned I didn’t find my Nike Shoes (No, this is not the feeling of Showoff. Now why I am saying this is because of a new blog lined up named as "50 Shades of Feelings"). Anyways with my mouth opened and heart pumping at full pace I searched them everywhere but didn't find them. I try to find them as much as I can't but was not successful. I turn of my bike's ignition and return back to home acquiesce. I wish if you could have shoes like this:


  Sorry i don't have any pic of my shoe to  upload. For the whole full night, all in my  dreams were my shoes. Well, this is one of those very  things which usually have  happened to  most of you. Here I am writing  some of the  very common things which occurred  after this incident.Here some are:

1. The unknown helper: The very first person you meet after this incident, someone who asks you what are you looking for and then will try to help you or will give you some kind of gyaan about what necessary steps you should take before coming to a temple.


2. Society Guard: Arey Saheb! Where are your shoes?  Are you fasting? Never wear good footwears while going to the temple. .


3. Mom: Whaaaaaat. Which shoes? Ohhhhh. Don't get upset. Shani ka daan chala gaya samjhlo. By the way how much were they for? You just returned from the office kya? Ohh my baby. Have you had your dinner? What. Eat something healthy. This weather is very susceptible. You     have blanket I guess. Eat some fruits as well. Don't get upset. Do you also have to go tomorrow? Sleep well. Take Care.


4. Dad : Hmmmm. Okay. Happens. Do you need some money? Should I transfer? You have my used ID and password, take it from there.


5. Younger Brother : Sala manhoos. Don't worry bhai. You take mine. No probs. Happens.


6. Girlfriend: Kyaaaaaa??? Awwwwwwww. Chalo, leave it yaar. You wear size no. 10. Let me search something good for you online. Don't worry Be happy.


7. Room mate :Bwahahahahhahahahahhahahahhahaha.  Which one, ohh the Nike one. Hahahaha. I told yaa, you've never allowed me to wear once. Hahahahhahahahahahaha.


8. Another room mate : When? Which temple? Hmmm. It is good. Happened to me twice.


9. Best Friend : hehehehe. Saley! You haven't given me the party of buying them naa isliye. Aur Showoff Kar!!! (Pay some respect and serve something to the Deity of Greed) Ultimately mujhe party de bey kamine!!!


10. Another good friend : Awwwwww. Hmmmm. Happens. Lets talk something else.


11. Miser Friend: See that is only reason I told you to wear cheap stuff. Look at my shoes, I am wearing this from last 5 years and they are going well. These brands only market and advertise well and befool you guys.


12. Good friend's room mate : Ohh. Have he seen properly. Just go again to that place and ask people.


13. Office Friend : Go to Bund Garden Chor Bazar. You will find your own shoes in 500 Rs. You can trust me on this.


14. An Atheist friend : Dude, that is why I say you don't need to go to the temples. If God really exists then it wouldn't have happened to you. You have went there with full faith then why did it happened to you.


15. An Overdramatic and Over-expressive friend : Ohh the one you were wearing yesterday. Condolence five dude.


16. Finally Me : (Kya bewakoofi laga rakhi hai yaar). I am not buying any new shoes. It is month end will plan after 3-4 months.


Ending this blog on this final note. If you liked it please start collecting 100 Rs and donate it to me so that I can buy new shoes. I am planning to buy a new pair like this.
 

When I told you, that I loved him....

She- But, I love him bhaiya.

Me: Are you in your senses? How can you? I mean how can you? Aren't you aware about the consequences?

She: I know that is why I have told you first.

Me: Ohhh really. And what do you think. "Sardar khush hoga, Shabaashi dega". You are really lucky that I am not in town today otherwise you should have received a tight slap.

She: Bhaiya….

Me: Tell me. I am Listening.

She: So?

Me: So what?

She: Won’t you be supporting your little princess?

Me: Don’t try to be smart madam. Who is he?

She: Bhaiya…

Me: I am asking something. Who is he? Tell me.

She: He is from my college. You have met him.

Me: I won’t let him live anymore. You broke my trust.

Wufff… I woke up. That was a bad dream. It seems as I am watching Hindi movies too much. Yes I was. These night shifts had not left me with any other option. I was the regular viewer of Zee Cinema Classic and trust me on that it really sucks.

Anyways, this dream forced me to again think about the relationships. What if my younger sister comes to me and confronts the same with me. I really don’t know how my reaction should be? Being BIG BROTHER forces us to be over protective sometimes. But my question is why it happens when our sister tells us about her love we start behaving as Orthodox Indians. What about our Girl Friends, they are too somebody’s sisters.

 As I have discussed in my previous blogs that how tough it is to confront your parents about your love. Similarly, it is way too tough for them to accept this truth. All I am trying to do here is to keep myself at their place and think. So, what are the consequences if my boy marries a girl of other caste? Some are:

•         My uncle will say, see I told you. You should not have sent him out for higher studies.
•         My friends will say, “Arey bhaisahab sun ke bada dukh hua”.
•         I really should not have sent him out for higher studies.
•         And what about the promise that I made to Shambhu phoophaji.
•         Nobody will be ready to marry my daughter. 

So.

So what about love? It is said no matter how efficient you are in planning at, but life always has its own plans. Agree.

One of my colleagues beautifully describes the after effects when you dropped this nuclear bomb in your family:

Stage 1: They shall shout at you. They will not talk properly. One of the famous quotes “hum kya kahein, aap to bahut bade ho gaye hain, aap apne decisions khud le sakte hain. Tumse humko aisi umeed nahi thi.

Stage 2: They stop talking to you and when you call them the responses shall be in “hmm” and hmmmmm. “Jo dikhaye so karo”. We don’t care.

Stage 3: And the most interesting among all. They shall ask “Are you stiff on your decision ki kuch ho sakta hai abhi bhi.” Also, they will request you to meet some boy/girl of their choice.

Stage 4: This is my personal favorite. Okay. Let’s meet and discuss.

Although, it also includes the qualities and status your caste have over the other and the comparison among their choice and yours. Some say the pair doesn’t look good. Some say I was ready to give 5 lakhs of rupees in cash.

I love one of the Rajesh Khanna’s song

“Kuch to log kahenge,

Logo kaa kaam hai kehna… Choodo BEKAAR ki baton ko…

This is my point. It is not that I am in the favour of Love Marriages and I am against Arrange Marriages. All I am against is that orthodox thinking. My point is simple. Meet your children’s choice, try to understand them. I always believe parents are the ones in this whole world who remains by your side, in any situation of the life. They are the ones who are happier and prouder if you succeed and they are the ones who motivate you when you lose. Convince your parents, they will agree sooner or later because in end all they want is you to be happy. 

That Ahhh Feeling!!!!!!!!!

Jahan Tere Pairon Ke Kawal Gira Karte Thay…

Hanse To Do Gaalon Mein Bhanvar Pada Karte Thay…

Chhod Aaye hai hum Wo Galiyaan…

Chhod Aaye hai hum Wo Galiyaan…

The song woke me up.Ever wonder every song has some story associated with it and sometimes the beautiful words of songs defines your current situation. Its 11:00 PM. I was in bus leaving for my “karma –bhoomi, Pune.” The song made a hullabaloo in my mind. It left with a different feeling. Something I’ll call as “That Ahhh Feeling.”

It is something especially for vagabond people like us, who usually study at one place but their ambitions, jobs and careers take them to a different big and settled place. I still remember the time when my younger brother came to drop me, when for the first time I was leaving home for higher studies. Although, Indore is just some 200 kms and a maximum 4 hour drive from my home but I still remember the look in his eyes, since I was late in catching the bus so all he could manage to do was just wave his hand to say Good-Bye Bro. I still remember his eyes telling me that whatsoever the case is I am gonna miss you so much bro.

That gaze left me with “that Ahhh feeling” in my heart. That 4 hour journey I was feeling more like I am a bride who is leaving her home to settle her life in a new city with her husband. The only thing that was different that day was I was not crying since somehow that egoistic manly creature in me was not letting me cry and also, there was a bunch of beautiful ladies hanging around at the back of my seat. So, I have to control myself. Anyways my respect to women that day had increased a little more.

It is almost seven months I’ve been to home and to be honest I was not missing going home. There were some two-three opportunities but I discarded them. But, my room-mate of Indore was getting married and so with heavy heart I decided to book my ticket and this time my luck didn’t favored me with TATKAL ticket. So, finally I have to board the bus.

I still remember my Post Graduation days where I used to be the one of the most “happy” and “vella- launda” of my college. The reason I am writing “one of the” is because yes there were some others too. And, now this is the time where I am bonded in this so called “Professionalism” where I am not allowed to chew food with open mouth, where I cannot wear my tore and funky denims and slippers, where I cannot laugh out loud aka lolz and cannot speak loud since others feel disturbed or in other words they woke up from their sleep.

It is really hurting when I see with so much of emotional burden and lots of dreams, people from different cities come to their “karma-bhoomi” and some political leaders say you cannot work here since you don’t belong to this state. Yes, I don’t but I do belong to the country which contains this state. This is my irony that I have to come to this place because my place does not have sufficient jobs and the company has given me joining in this state.

Ever wonder when you are at your place or when you reach your hometown even some years after “nothing changes”. You have got that good feeling in your heart. Everything is slow and steady in comparison to your work place. You sometimes feel to resign and come back to this place again but at that very moment the other you in you shakes you and makes you realizes your dreams, your promotions that is just a month away, the 2BHK flat you are about to purchase and your friends who are also out. The handsome salary you are receiving and the easy availability of everything cools you down.

Although, many of you might not agree with me but some of you will. The reason I don’t like to go to my place is BECAUSE it took atleast a week for me to settle down back again to the fast and furious life of here since everything there is very slow, cool and steady with low income possibilities and vice versa is the case here, everything is fast and furious here with higher earning possibilities. Also, it is really tough to convince parents and ask them to come with us. All we got to here is yes we can come with you for a week but not more than that. We are born here, the life is smooth here and we like to live here till the end.

Sometimes, by looking at school kids playing in ground no matter it is raining or tremendous heat make me think why I grew up?

Such things make you realize life is too short and it is a matter of fact that you have to accept it and the thing which motivates me maximum is the beautiful lines of another beautiful song:  

Yunhi chala, chal raahi, Yunhi chala, chal raahi,
Kitni haseen hai ye duniya
Phool saare jamele, dekh phoolon ke mele
Badi rangeen hai duniya...

Jhelum Express vs. Love Marriage

Her: So?

Me: (Filled with gol gappa’s in my mouth) so what?

Her: When are we going to marry?

Me: (Ahh No, not again, the same question) Arey bhai meetha khila yaar!

Her: Reply nah?

Me: About what?

Her: Tell me directly if  you don’t want to marry me!

Me: Arey, it’s not like this betu, we’ll marry soon.

Her: When?

Me: Umm… Even you know, I am not settled. Abhi age hi kya hai apni. How can I predict?

Her: But still I feel you have something in your mind?

Me: Yes, next year

Her: (Happily) Promise?

Me: Yes Baby promise.

Her: Ok, abhi shadi ka decide kar hi liya hai, so mom dad ko kab bataoge?

Me: (Aaj to yeh mood me hai bête, aaram se) Soon.

Her: How sooner?

Me: ???????????

Her: Better, tell them early they would also need some time.

Me: Uhmmmm…

Her: Vaibhav, talk to me.

Me: I am.

Her: Really? You are just responding to my questions.

Me: Na…na…

Her: See…

Me: I’ll tell them, just wait for sometime.

Her: I've been waiting since long. You have to tell them this month and that’s final. Understand?

Me: (With wide mouth open) how can you do this to me?

Her: You have not left me with any choice. The ball is in your court now. Play sensibly. I can give you a suggestion, there is an extended weekend coming on Thursday go home and tell them about us.

Me: (As if it’s that easy) let me think.

It would be a holiday on coming Thursday and I will take a leave on Friday and so there will be a four day holidays so as a normal homesick man (this is what I was showing to my colleagues)would run home. I was stuck into IRCTC website for my reservation. (Since, I was among the few lucky ones who successfully book TATKAL TICKET.) It is a 14 hours journey from Pune to Home and the reservations most of the times are full.

Anyways, I have to apply for degree at university, will definitely meet my school friends this time, will had spicy Chinese food from Sharma Jee’s New market, will convince Mom to cook “Daal-Baati” & Moong Bhajiyas these are thoughts that were there in my mind from past three months as a part of going home. But after talking to "her" I don’t see any of them to accomplished as my priorities changed by a 5 minute conversation. Suddenly the booking page opened, I was again proud on my success. Suddenly, my phone rang it was Mom.

Mom: Hey beta! How are you? How is everything? Have you taken breakfast?

Me: I want to marry a girl of my choice.

Mom: Whaaaaat????????? Is she of our caste?

Me: No.

Mom: Are you in your senses? What rubbish are you taking?

Me: Yes, I am.

Mom: It never happened in our family and it won’t happen even in the coming generations. Better you listen to me. Have you ever thought what people will say, what this society will say? People were right we shouldn’t have sent you out for studies. Better you pack your bags and come back here. You’ve totally ruined our name.

Me: But Mom I have a job here, I won’t get release on a short notice.

Mom: No worries, resign. There are lots of opportunities here. Come back.

Me: I won’t get reservations this quick.

Mom: Come by plane.

Me: Its month end, I don’t have money for flight.

Mom: Its 8^th today, but I know this would be month end for you. I will transfer money in your account tomorrow. Book a ticket and come back.

Me: Are you serious?

Mom: Yes, very much.

Sadly, I hung the phone and went back to work with lots of negative thoughts in my mind. Although, I was prepared that this is about to come but not in this way. I was still thinking how to convince her, what I should say so that she listens.

This is again a very common story. We are allowed to do most of the things the way we want but when it comes to biggest decision of life: marriage, most of parents do not accept. The thing which again and again comes to my mind is “Parents are always right, they were the ones who brought us in the world and they were the ones who were at your side when everyone was against you, all the decisions that they have made were correct.” Now, let’s move to other aspect. Marriage is a decision that people usually take after theyget matured enough and if I am not wrong same it is the case with this choosing love for lifetime. Although, choosing a right partner is not in our hands since there is no such thing called as perfect partner. You choose what you feel good is. We need a partner who is matured enough to understand the complexities of life. We men need more of a friend then a possessive girlfriend or life partner.

I really don’t know about the parameters. What should be an ideal age to get married? Some say after you settle down well enough and what all things this well enough statement includes?  A good job or a 2 BHK flat or a lavish car?

For a normal earning person like me who works in a small organization, will need some time to fulfill these dreams but does that mean, should I be judged only on my assets column? I really don’t know because parents want to give their daughter to a well settled and established man.

My ticket session was about to expire, my hands were shaking, I moved to coffee machine to grab some coffee. Something, strike tomy mind I ran back to my laptop the session expired. I logged back again, booked my ticket (since, this is an off season so tatkal ticket was easily available.)

I've decided I will convince my parents about her. They will agree. I believe. So, I am catching my Jhelum Express. Are you?

Love, Sex & Dhokha!!!

Hello everyone,

Well, it is said everything happens for a good cause though I am not happy after breaking my streak of publishing blogs every Friday but this is the way life goes.Well, my topic name does suggest that I am writing another review of the movie as that was there in the last blog but it is actually about the current situation that is there in our society or in world as mentioned in most of my blogs.

Anyways, people say you fall in Love when your luck is not favoring you, your stars are afraid of you and God is in the mood to make fun of you but I really don’t feel so. Many philosophers have defined love in their own way but for me love is something, when you start wearing colors you don’t like to (and everybody compliments you), you start loving romantic movies and stories, when you start feeling the depth of the words, when you start associating love stories with your life, when your mobile gets recharged automatically when your balance is low, when someone learns to cook your favorite dish and prepares the same for you, when someone wears your favorite color or dress again and again. Everybody has their opinion about love.
I am the one of those who truly believes that Movies and TV serials are the reality of society. Most of the shows that are famous are because people relate them from their own life. Ok, I am not talking about the exaggeration but the story line is somehow matches our life. I believe TV series “HOW I MET YOUR MOTHER” cannot be easily acceptable if telecasted publically in our country but irony is it is among the most downloaded TV series in India. Although the show is really good but the concept of sex, incidentally which is the second hero of my blog, there is introduced very frankly which the hypocrite society of our country won’t be able to accept. 

Gone are the days when men says love begins with eyes, all they say these days is it begins with something situated lower then eyes. Bitter truth!

I still remember the scenes from the movies releasing during my adolescent years where a hero-heroine used to come closer, roses strike and the other scene used to be heroine weeping about what just happened. At that time I could not co-relate with things but the Internet and Media had made things so easily available. It is said time changes and yes it does as we can see. Youngsters these days want everything simply complicated. Children aging 12 years are into relationships. Children are exploring about sex quickly but are not able to see the adverse effects of it. They are maturing before their age. I truly believe maturity should not come early, as if it will; the child loses its innocence.

Somehow, love is losing its charm and the next thing is becoming important and so where the third hero is included i.e. Dhoka (betray). We are the country of more than 1.27 billion. We proudly say that we are the country that produces largest Engineers, Doctors, MBA’s & Scientist but how can we forget we are also the country with number of rape cases in a single day.

Guys throwing acid, MMS cases have been so common. Girls rejecting proposals and boys making their MMS’s or their personal photographs public is one of the very common way of taking revenge. I really feel bad when the youth of our country is involved in the things like this. People mess up with their relationships, break ups is a common thing and one should be matured enough to handle this. If you are matured enough to make relations, you should also be matured to sustain those and if you are not able to sustain, then end those on happy notes.

Give me some sunshine... Give me some rain.....Give me another chance i wanna grow up once again!!!!

Hello everyone,

Its Friday again, a new movie will release today and so is my blog. So here I am. After writing so much on the serious topics, I was looking for something fresh and light. Then, one of my good friend and colleague suggested me why not to write on some movie. There have been lot of talks about movies on Friday. Though its not a review of recent release. But i want talk about an old movie and I feel this is one of the best movies of all the time. It’s about “3 idiots.
The movie started with controversy when Aamir Khan denied the fact that the movie is inspired from a famous Indian fictional author Chetan Bhagat's "5 point someone". When, I was new in the reading world, Chetan Bhagat used to be my favorite writer and hence I was eagerly waiting for the movie to come. When this movie released I was pursuing MBA and I was living in Indore, the movie fever was everywhere, finally I decided too buy ticket in Black. Anyways, I grabbed my seat and the music begins “Kaha se aaya tha wo, yaar humara tha wo, kaha gaya usey dhundo.” It’s a fact even you all will agree that when a book is converted into a movie, we start comparing it and here I was connecting the moments that, which character was missing in the book and the movie was progressing. Honestly speaking there were some instances that are same as in book, but the movie had its different identity. Well you all must be thinking that after three years why I am writing about the movie, the reasons are many but things which we I think should be highlighted :
1.       The first and for most, "do what you like to". There are many live and proved examples in front of us. The one who follows his heart and do what he likes to proves himself Champion. Let me quote the same example from the movie, if Sachin Tendulkar was asked to be a singer and Lata Mangeskar was asked to be a cricketer, had they been as successful as they are now.

2.       The second one is for parents, don’t force your children to be Engineer or Doctor, to pursue education is important but don’t decide their career. Let them be what they want to be.

3.       The third learning is for muggers, there are some in every batch. Mugging can help you only during the exams but not in real life. Ultimately, “tumhara balatkaar ho jaayegi.”

4.       It takes some time to be what you want to be. There is no rocket science; neither guarantee that any particular course or college can provide you a handsome job. It’s all about the skills; if you have good ones success will be your girlfriend. Kamyaab hone ke liye nahi, kaabil banne ke liye padho, success jhak maar ke peeche aayegi.

5.        It is said parents are the only ones in this entire world who would be most happy if you succeed and are always ready to help you till the time you finally settle down in life. Be frank with them and always tell them about your ambitions, passion and hobbies.

6.       Do not bother about what people say, “Kuch to log kahenge, logo ka kaam hai kehna.” Till the time you  you have are happy, everything is right and perfect.


Well, the reason I am praising 3 idiots is the movie gives us a clear message of the current situation of our country. I remember my days, after schooling, I was not clear what to do. Being a science student, I was advising to pursue Engineering. I enrolled myself for Engineering; initial one and a half year was horrible, nothing was going fine. It is said when you are at your worst you find who are your real friends. I realized how people are; anyways I completed my Engineering but was jobless. I won’t say that is most because recession, it was but I was not ready to fight then I decided to go for MBA. Unlike Engineering my days at my MBA’s were fun, but there was something missing, I was doing a course and studying something which usually students learn in 11th standard, the journal entries in Accounts and as like every engineer I was again struggling.
After MBA, when I appeared for interviews, the question that every interviewer asked me was "You are a software engineer why do you want to come in sales?" But sir now I am an MBA too. (my mind always replies like this.) Thank god, I handled these questions diplomatically. The similar question in the movie Aamir asks to Kareena- Jab MBA hi karna tha to Engineering kyu kia? Or abb America me bank me naukri karr rha hai?

This is my story but I know this is one of the very common story in our country. We are the country who produces maximum Engineers in a year. Our education system according to a survey is the third toughest and successful. These days everyone wants a 5 figure salaried job and to settle abroad. No-one wants to settle in India. A client from Germany was sharing me that the biggest edge India has over other countries is the population of youth or young blood. But I connect it the saying “Oldies and running country and new ones are running Facebook.”

I accept the fact that in our country youth lack proper guidance. There is just a rat race. We do what our friends do or our relatives advise us to do. Indian parents either want their child to be an Engineer or a Cricketer. Money is not everything; many rich brads are not able to sleep properly. Work satisfaction is the biggest thing and it will earn huge for you.

Lastly, just want to say do the things that your heart tells you and yes kiss karne me naak beech me nahi aati.